Happy Wednesday! Hope you are all having a great week. I’m soaking up my last week of maternity leave before starting back to work next Monday. Today’s post is a change of pace from the typical fashion and motherhood post. I’m going to be focusing on the inner voice inside of all us that can be full of negativity, especially if you are going through any type of change in life. Life can be full of surprises and changes. No matter if that change is positive or negative, life changes can lead to a new mindset. Today’s post is all about learning to love the new you during your new season of change.
Be gentle with yourself, you’re doing the best you can.
Learning to Love the New You:
When it comes to learning to love the new you, the first thing you need to do is have the proper mindset. Most of the time, our issues with ourselves begin with negative thoughts that are constantly running through your mind. It’s important to change your negative mindset and start encouraging yourself.
There are a handful of ways you can create a new mindset that will help you learn to love yourself. For starters, create a self-love jar. Inside that jar, write out a few positive words about yourself each day. These words can be simple at first but as time goes on, find deeper words that you love about yourself. On days when you are feeling low, pull out your jar and read your thoughts. Another way is to wake up each morning, look at yourself in the mirror, and share with yourself a daily affirmation. Struggling with finding daily affirmations? My friend, Summer, has a great list of 35 self-love affirmations. Lastly, participate in a self-love challenge that will help you love the new you. Chelsea from Inspiration Indulgence has a great 30 self-love challenge filled with difficult prompts, easy prompts, and ways to #treatyoself.
End the Comparison //
For me, the biggest struggle with being comfortable with myself is constantly comparing myself to others and I know I’m not the only one who struggles with this. In the time where social media is so prevalent, comparing ourselves is so easy to do. While most people only post the pretty pictures and talk about the positives, everyone struggles with insecurities and challenges in their personal lives. The important thing is to stop comparing because you never know where someone is with their life. If you’re just starting a business, fitness journey, or a certain chapter in your life, comparing yourself to someone who is in the middle of their journey is definitely not helpful. The important thing is to love you and embrace where you are in life.
You Matter //
At the end of the day, you matter. It’s important to show others that you are putting yourself first. There are many ways to show yourself and others that you matter. Some ways are by buying yourself flowers, treating yourself to something new- clothes, shoes, new home decor piece, take the day off and pamper yourself with a message or mani/pedi, go on a retreat/vacation, and so on. While there are ways to physically show yourself that you matter, you should also speak highly of yourself. When you are around others, don’t talk negatively about your personality, appearance, or decisions. By talking negatively to yourself, you show others that you don’t think you matter and you are encouraging others to talk negatively about yourself.
The final tip I have for you today in learning to love the new you is to find acceptance. Accept the new season that brings out the new you. My new season is motherhood. In my new season, I’ve learning to love my body as it’s gained lots of weight, changed its shape, and has new features like stretch marks. Not only has this new season brought physical changes but it’s brought lots of mental changes. I’m accepting that motherhood brings extreme mental challenges. In this season of motherhood acceptance, I’m learning how to put someone first (my son), how to love unconditionally, how to survive on limited sleep, how to acknowledge that life isn’t perfect, and how to be a good role model for the little eyes looking up at me.
Other things that you should learn to accept is your flaws and insecurities. While these two items may seem like the only thing that’s on your mind and you’re constantly wondering if everyone else is noticing the same flaws, remember everyone has flaws and insecurities. There is not a perfect person in this world and we should always remember that. Not only should you accept your flaws and insecurities, accept that you can’t control everything. Life does give you lemons and you should choose to make lemonade out of them. So when life hands you trials, turn them into triumphs and remembering to love yourself.
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Taking the time to focus on self-love is so important to achieve a life full of love, acceptance, and happiness. No matter what season life brings you, always take the time and learn to love the new you. I’m definitely learning to love the new me as I get used to the season of motherhood. My looks have changed, I’ve gained weight, and my mentality is definitely different. All of these things are okay, and learning to love those new changes will make me a happier and better person.
This new season is going to be the place where you learn a lot. It won’t be easy, but the wisdom you gather here will be worth more than gold. – Morgan Harper Nichols
What do you do when you enter a new season of life?
How do you learn or keep loving yourself?