Hello, loves! Happy Wednesday! I hope you are all having a wonderful week so far. Today is our sweet lab’s 2nd birthday. It’s hard to believe our crazy boy is two already. Anyway, today’s post is something I find near and dear to my heart, 3 lessons learned during a year of marriage. It’s hard to believe that 13 months ago, Brad and I were saying ‘I Do’. In a year of marriage, we have had lots of ups, downs, memories made, and lessons learned.
3 Lessons I Learned During A Year of Marriage
Arguments are okay, but going to bed angry is not //
Whenever two people get together, no matter how compatible they are, there are bound to be disagreements which lead to arguments. This is okay! Even though everyone knows that arguments are the worst, sometimes they need to happen. When it comes to arguing, let both people communicate their side of the story and be willing to listen. Take a deep breath before responding.
After the argument, make sure that you find time to make up before you go to bed. No matter if it’s an apology for starting the argument, agreeing with your spouse, or simply saying that you love your spouse no matter what, find time before you go to bed to clear the air. You might be thinking, why would I do any of this if I was the one that was correct? The answer is because it’s the right thing to do. Both of you would end up dwelling on the argument which will lead to a sleepless night and carry the argument to the next day. By carrying the conversation into the next day, both of you are bound to start the argument up all over again, resulting in nothing good.
Communication is Key //
Just like with everything in life, communication is key. Holding in your feelings doesn’t solve anything. You’ll most likely keep your feeling inside for so long that you’ll end up snapping over the silliest thing when you could’ve communicated your thoughts/feelings and avoided an argument. Marriage is a two way street and everyone’s thoughts and opinions are extremely important to maintaining a successful and happy marriage.
Keep dating your spouse //
While it’s always fun to go out on dates, that’s not necessary what this lesson means. As time goes on, people grow and change. Keeping conversations about what’s going on with each other is really important. It’s also really important to share with your partner if your interests are changing. People are complicated and it is so important to keep learning about each other. I always find it fun to ask Brad questions about growing up, memories from high school, and so on. There’s always a new story that I haven’t heard and by him sharing those moments, I feel that I get to know him better. Plus, who doesn’t love reflecting on the past with your loved one?
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Are you married? If so, how many years have you been married?